How to be Friends again with Your Exes !

• Make sure that your ex is worth working on a friendship with. Obvious don’ts are exes who cheated on you or abused you: if they couldn’t respect you then, they’re not worth keeping around now.
• Zero contact is the break-up rule of thumb! Trying to be friends or not, you need to go at least two months without contacting your ex in any way whatsoever. Three to six months is better, and if, when those six months are up, the idea of his having a new girlfriend still feels like somebody kicked you in the gut, you’re not ready to be friends.
• Be on your best behavior. Every stupid thing you do–like trying to beat your ex into a coma or leading him to think you’ll get back together when, in reality, you’re already dating somebody else–just decreases the chances that you’ll be friends someday.
• Conversely, don’t be That Crazy Ex to his new girlfriends. Don’t try to sabotage his new relationships.
• When you’re both ready to be friends again, take it slow. Don’t get too personal too quickly, or you’ll just fall into the same traps you were in before, and those months you spent ignoring each other will all have served no purpose.
• If it’s not working, don’t push it. Sometimes I tried to be good friends with my ex-boyfriends, and they made it clear that they were only interested in hanging out occasionally and communicating primarily by obnoxious, impersonal